I'm not a detail person. Well, let me rephrase that. I'm not a detail person when it comes to remembering them. I wish I was.
When it comes to milestones, though? I don't care about my bad memory. Actually - I find it refreshing.
Yesterday I put Hope on her belly (which she loves, loves, loves!) and Brian and I were playing with her.
"She's getting so strong, Brian! Look how she can hold herself up," I said.
"You're so strong, Hopi! Do you remember when I did that, Mommy?" he asked.
"I do!" I replied. And this photo instantly popped into my mind. But for the life of me, I couldn't remember how old he was when he was holding himself up on his belly. And I didn't care.
I decided to try to re-create the photo with Hope.
I learned a thousand lessons from Gavin during his short life. But one of the most important ones was not to get hung up on comparisons... or worrying... or charts... or timelines... or expectations.
It was freeing. A gift. Once Brian was born I approached him with a clean slate. He showed me what he could do and I celebrated him. And I'm doing the same with Hope.
She is showing us how very special and unique she is every day. She has a sweet personality and such an easy smile.
Believe it or not - she has been consistently sleeping through the night all week! I won't bank on this being forever, so I'm enjoying it in the now. She has been putting herself to bed anytime between 7 and 8pm and waking up around 7 or 8am!
I really don't check books or charts to see when she's supposed to be achieving things like rolling over or grabbing things, etc. I prefer to watch her. Observe her. Two of my favorite pastimes.
I never want to impose my needs or project my expectations on my children's lives. That's what a therapist is for. (Or a blog. Ha!) I want them to always feel confident to show us who they are... and know that we will love them.
If anyone was going to teach me to be a parent - I'm glad it was Gavin. He paved the way for his brother and sister to have a Mommy who refuses to get hung up.
Thank you forever, Gavin.
Please don't forget to get your tickets to Gavin's Playground Project if you're planning on attending on April 5th! The "early bird" tickets are only available until March 30th and then they go up to $50 each! For all the details about the event - even for those who aren't coming, follow this link...