Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Ready or Not...

For the past several days, I've been noticing something unusual with Brian.  He developed red under eye circles that get worse as the day goes on.  
He's constantly itching his nose and his eyes.  
And he's sprouted red patches behind his knees.

I knew instantly these were the tell-tale signs of allergies... but to what?  I started thinking of all the things that were new - Halloween candy being at the top of the list.  Brian really didn't eat candy before this Halloween.  Maybe it was sugar.  Maybe it was dyes, which I also try hard to avoid.  And then I wondered if it was leaves - and mold.  I knew that our acupuncturist, Dr. Kang, would help me figure it out quickly.  So today, Brian and I headed to her office.

I'm not going to lie.  I was a nervous wreck.  We had been at Dr. Kang's office when Gavin started to act a little funny on April 10th - and we left that office and headed straight to the Emergency Room.  I probably could have benefitted from acupuncture during this whole pregnancy for a variety of reasons, but arranging appointments while Brian was in school was tricky - and I was trying to be sensitive to him.  I feared that he would be anxious going back there - so I just didn't go.  I wasn't sure how he was going to react when I told him that we had an appointment today.  But when his face lit up and he said he couldn't wait to get a lollipop...I exhaled.
Dr. Kang is a genius.  Before we even got back to a room to test him, she had it figured out.

You can read more about how she tests - and how she helped Brian with previous allergies - in THIS post.  She started with my theories:  sugar, dyes, leaves and mold... and dust.  All negative.  Then she handed Brian a jar filled with weeds.  Bingo.  He's allergic to weeds.  Unfortunately, even the Gavin wishing kind...which he uses to blow wishes to Heaven.  Oh boy.
But have no fear.  We've been there, done that with allergies.  I will be collecting weeds and placing them in a sealed glass jar.  Then I will do his back massages every night until we desensitize him.  I'm not one to jump into medication...and I know this works.  And Brian is thrilled that he'll get "tickled" every night!!
On Tuesday I had another ultrasound of Hope!  I'm currently 32 weeks (Saturday will be 33).  My Mom and sister came along to the ultrasound, which was a lot of fun.  They had never seen 3D images and were completely stunned.  Who wouldn't be??  Look at this precious little face!  If you're wondering who I think she looks like so far...I think she looks like Brian in this photo:
And I think she looks like Gavin in this view:
We shall see!  They were able to tell me that she currently weighs 4lbs, 4oz which just amazed me.  If I go to term (which is unlikely) she could weigh a little over seven pounds.

The doctor showed us her hair again on the ultrasound.  The white spiky lines above the arrow.  Watching it on the ultrasound was cool as you could see it flowing back and forth in the amniotic fluid.
This morning while folding laundry I had the TV on and two different Christmas ads came on.  It was shocking, but not for the reason you might think.  When Gavin died - and I found out I was pregnant - and was told my due date would be Christmas time - it all seemed so far away.  And I liked it that way.  I wanted this pregnancy to go drag on and on... because I love being pregnant and this will definitely be the last time.  But mostly I hated the idea of rushing away from the last day Gavin lived.  The last day I held him.  Kissed his sweet face.  Held his hand.

But it did go fast.  Just as his five and half years went fast.  And now, it's almost Christmas time...and we will meet the little sister that I know he's already prepped to join our family.  Tomorrow, Miss Sara will be here to help us put up our Christmas tree.  It's very early, I know.  But you just never know when our tiny dancer will make her arrival.  And even though I didn't want to be "here" so soon...
...I'm ready.  


  1. I found your blog from a friend of mine. The first blog post I read was about OC, NJ. I grew up in Ocean City and now live right over the bridge where I am raising my family, which includes my 3 December babies:) Just wanted to say your posts touch me and I have enjoyed reading back to your beginning.

  2. Hate to bother you but could you post Dr. Kang's website or phone number. I live in the area and I am thinking of going to her for my psoriasis and my child's food allergies and asthma, thanks :)

  3. Love this entry ♡♡♡

  4. Thank you for this post. Hang tough Mama. You have to be a pin ball machine of emotions these days, ricocheting from joy and grief. I am keeping my fingers crossed that you make it to December before Hope arrives. Wish I lived close enough to visit your acupuncturist. We are struggling with allergies with our little guy and he is on so many medicines. I don't like it. Be well Kate.

  5. Have fun finding the weeds he's actually allergic to. Acupuncturists and other "natural" ways claim to be a cure. I am not convinced. And as far as Brian never having candy, are you proud of that or something? You make him peanut butter and marshmallow sandwiches. That's candy right there.

    1. I'm glad I'm not out to convince you! I'm just documenting and sharing what works for us. And I was talking about chocolate candy bars and candy you would get on Halloween...that kind of candy. I will try to be more specific for your next critique. But yes, I am proud of not feeding my kids a lot of junk - thanks! :-)

    2. you are wonderful Kate, people like that (above) are pitiful! I have never tried acupuncture but it definitely sounds interesting!! Love your blog. -Genevie

    3. It always amazes me how cruel we humans can be. I hope that the "anonymous" with all the negative comments will someday be able to understand just how petty and rude they are being, be able to turn themselves around, and live a more enjoyable life.

    4. I whole heartedly believe in natural cures/treatments... medical care scares me to death as I am not so sure much of it is not out to benefit the pockets of drug companies, doctors etc. People like the above poster should be ashamed.

  6. I have to admit that I was a bit nervous when I saw your post title. My first thought was that Hope was coming ready or not. I was not real concerned because I know how far along you are but was "thankful" to read it was not Hope coming. I love that last pic of her feet, so precious! The first ultrasound I had was a bit over 30 years ago. At that time, I was so excited that this technology was available. Look how far it's come!!! As to the anonymous post above, too bad someone has to "share" what they think is best for your child. You had wonderful results with Gavin, something to be very proud of! And as far as putting your tree up, a great idea!!! I remember when I was pregnant with our both our first and last kids, I made sure all Christmas shopping was done because I just wasn't sure when they would come. The first was due on Dec. 23, the same date that I lost his older brother; our last was due in late Jan. Plus, if Hope does come early, what a relief to come home and have that tree up already!

  7. I had my daughter on December 13th. went into labor putting the tree up and cleaning up the needles after! :) Be careful! :)

  8. Even your responses to the nasties are nice. I'll tell you what I'M proud of...YOU. jenny page

  9. I was reading an article in the Ensign (an LDS magazine) about a widow who was sad the more time passed from her husband's "death date," like she was moving further away from him each day. Until she realized that she has total faith that she will see him again in heaven, in which case, each passing day brings her closer to the time she will see her husband again. So now each passing day just makes her feel that much closer to her loved one. Anyway, I thought of that when reading about your thoughts about the due date coming closer. Congratulations on your new little one! I am donating to the Special Olympics in honor of Gavin. Much love to you and your family.


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