I am not a person who likes to make waves. I tend to go with the flow and, I'm ashamed to admit, I care a little too much if people "like" me. Tonight I casually and quickly spoke up in an online group I've been a part of since before Gavin was born after an online friend used the word "retarded". She didn't mean any harm and was talking about something totally benign. I didn't mean to make her feel bad (as I know that word is often casually used...as much as "gay" is used) but I had to speak up. I will never change the world...this I know. But I'd like to at least TRY to tell those closest to me that the word "retarded" is something that offends me...and my family. I'd just like to feel I'm doing my part...one friend at a time...to change people's feelings about that word. There are so many other words to use in so many different languages.
I can't be eloquent describing why I feel strongly about that word tonight. My comment ended up being taken the wrong way and after listening to someone defend their use of the word "retarded", I felt it was best I leave this group. So I'm a little shocked...and sad...and scratching my head wondering what year this is. I hope that the next time I actually have the courage to make waves and stand up for something I feel strongly about it won't go this poorly.
Since I am not feeling eloquent, but want to spread the word...please read one of my favorite posts by my favorite blogging friend, Ellen. And please...no one is perfect, certainly not me. But please try to be aware of hurtful words in your vocabulary. If not for me, then for Gavin.
And please, I beg you, don't leave any mean comments.
I just can't handle it.